Loss is part of home buying

And not everybody in the real estate business is prepared to help people deal with lost love. It’s no wonder. Real estate agents, to stretch the simile, are simply matchmakers, after all — and they see it happen all the time.

There’s plenty said about “buyer’s remorse” — that rock in the pit of your stomach, the cold sweats that come in the wee hours after you’ve signed your life away for that perfect home, especially a first one. “Buyer’s remorse” is even in the index of real estate textbooks and consumer pamphlets.

The other thing — call it “buyer’s rejection” — isn’t quite a trade secret, but it isn’t talked about much. And with homes selling like they are in the Oklahoma City area right now, that means hearts are being quietly broken all over the metro every day.

For most people, it happens just a few times. For first-timers, as with puppy love lost, when the deal goes sour it makes you feel like a dog.

Crests can fall several ways, not just when someone outbids you for a house, said Victoria Caldwell, an agent (now with RE/MAX Preferred, 9520 N May Ave., Suite 110).

Another buyer can outbid you on your dream house. Or a seller can accept an offer before you can get yours made — and it’s especially painful if yours was the better offer.

And there are three other spots in the home-buying process where even the smartest, most confident buyer can be spurned — and left feeling as dejected as the class nerd on prom night:

• The lender sends all your paperwork back with a big fat, impersonal, unemotional “No.”

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